It's Millennial Marriage's 1st Birthday!

By Maggie Reimherr

So today we’re celebrating a birthday - Derek and I published our first post on Millennial Marriage 1 year ago today.

We started for a few reasons:

  • We had stories to tell - like the time I thought I was going to bleed to death on our honeymoon (joking) or the time we almost got scammed out of $3000 in an apartment rental scheme.
  • 2 months into marriage, we'd already found ourselves doling out marriage advice. We’re not experts, but we’re pretty good at being married to each other. If something works for us, why not share it?
  • We’re both pretty good writers, if we do say so ourselves.
  • We'd both tried and failed to blog in the past and thought, “Maybe if we do this together, we'll hold each other accountable to sticking with it.” And so far, it's worked. Admittedly, we've had a few months when we've only published a post or two, but we never jumped ship.
  • This time last year, I was trying to figure out what the heck I wanted to do with my life and my career. I was having trouble coping with the day-to-day monotony of my old job, and I needed a creative outlet. I had also wondered if writing/content marketing was a potential career for me. Ultimately, I decided it wasn't what I wanted to do professionally… but it's a whole lot of fun.

And here we are a year later with…

  • 3 brand partnerships under our belt
  • 4200+ Instagram followers
  • 10.7K unique visitors to the site
  • 25.6K lifetime pageviews
  • Newfound expertise in iPhone photography
  • Even more stories to share

We love doing this blogging thing. And we've worked hard so far to get where we are. I can't tell you how many hours we've spent researching what works and what doesn't work for bloggers, how much effort it took to build up our Instagram following, and how challenging it can sometimes be to come up with ideas for quality posts when you're juggling a million other things. One of our biggest lessons this year was that you don’t just start a blog and sit back and go viral. You have to hustle.

 We had blog goals in our first year… mainly “stick with it” and “insta followers galore.” Now that we've done that satisfactorily, we have some more things planned for year 2. Our #goals for year 2 of Millennial Marriage are: 

  • New posts on Tuesday and Thursday... every single week.
  • Growing our social media platforms - especially on Facebook and Twitter - and get more active on those platforms. Shout out to Instagram for being a great platform for us to share pics and connect with readers and other bloggers. (Have you liked/followed us? No? Why the heck not?! Do it.)
  • More advice based on what we've learned so far in our marriage. It's been more than a year, so we’re obviously hella wise now. Joking, but really… we've learned a lot and we’re going to share it.
  • More quality lifestyle content. Travel guides and Atlanta restaurant recommendations? Let's do it.
  • More brand partnerships. Hey travel brands, wanna send us on a free trip? Plz hmu.

Honestly, there are way too many bloggers on the internet. And most aren’t writing anything worth reading. No knock on them - we know as much as the next blogger that doing this is fun, so do your thing! But because there’s such an oversaturated market, you kinda have to love it - there's a one in a million chance you can turn blogging into a career when there’s so much out there grabbing people’s attention. But we also decided in the beginning that while this is for fun, we always want to share stories and advice and thoughts that are a good read. We’re not going to post subpar content just to post. These are some of the posts we’re most proud of from the past year - a little fun, a little storytelling, and a few life lessons...

To everyone who’s stuck with us over the past year - THANK YOU for following along as we try to figure out marriage and adulthood.

Now we want to hear from you… what do you want to see more of from us in the next year? Any topics you'd love for us to cover? Let us know in the comments, on social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram), or in an email!

The Summer Purchases You Won't Regret

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By Derek Reimherr

In case you missed it, we recently moved from Boston to Atlanta. And there’s nothing like upgrading to a 2 bedroom apartment with a giant patio, walk-in closets, and full-size bathrooms to make you realize how much you do (or don’t) have.

Being an interests guy, there are many things I love in this world. Surprising no one who knows me, two of them are entertaining and decorating. Something something gender roles, whatever. As we looked around at our new apartment, Maggie and I got the itch to start buying stuff we probably don’t need to make our new home feel more comfortable and entertaining easier.

Some of that stuff we definitely didn’t need (like a mousepad with a Rambo cat riding a fire breathing unicorn), but several of our purchases have been really, really great.

So as you’re gearing up for the summer, we’ve got a few (non-sponsored, no one is paying us for these) recommendations based on our recent purchases. We think they’ll make your home a lot more fun, cozy, and comfortable.

1. New bar stools for your kitchen

In the south, people gather around food. Lucky for us, our new kitchen comes complete with a nice, long bar. Unfortunately, it’s been sitting naked for the past several months. No more! Target came in clutch with these really slick stools that perfectly fit our apartment aesthetic, and at only $180 for 2 pairs.

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2. Decorations for your patio. Extra points for copper.

All copper everything. I don’t even care how ~basic~ it makes us, we LOVE copper in the Reimherr household. Our patio is perfect for summer sitting since it doesn’t get much direct sun and we want to spruce it up with unique lighting features. One trip to Target yielded this copper lantern and following Kinja Deals on Twitter served us these copper wire lights for a steal. The lantern is on our patio set (also from Target) and the lights are now strung through our patio fence/railing.

P.S. Be careful with Kinja Deals. Every time I click on their daily deals, I have something in my Amazon shopping cart 5 seconds later. Speaking of Amazon….

3. Amazon Prime membership

If you don’t already have one, what are you doing? You’re too busy to run to the store for every little thing this summer. 2-day free shipping has been a major time saver for us. But wait, there’s more! Amazon Music, Amazon Movies and TV (like Man in the High Castle - so good), and early access to deals. What are you waiting for?

4. Cold brew coffee maker

If you haven’t explored the world of cold brew, summer is the perfect time. There’s nothing worse than hot coffee when it’s already 80 degrees at 9:00 am. Yes, you can make cold brew in a french press or a pitcher (with some finagling). But wouldn’t you rather get a super cheap, super easy to use cold brew maker instead? This one is 1 quart which is perfect for two travel mugs every morning. Yes, cold brew takes a lot more coffee beans to make, but it’s still about $0.75 per 10 oz coffee vs. $3.50 at the coffee shop across the street from us.

5. Self-care essentials

Maggie is all about the self-care and it’s rubbed off on me, too. For her, that means bubble baths, frequent trips to the library, and the occasional massage. If you’re partial to relaxing baths, here’s what she’s been using lately. While you’re at it, get a bath caddy to hold your glass of wine. I gifted Maggie one for Christmas and she loves it.

6. A good pair of headphones

Anyone that plans on bebopping (people still say this, right?) their way around coffee shop patios in the summer knows the value of decent bluetooth headphones. Alternatively, they’re great for air travel or long car rides. Trust me, your ears deserve better than those iPhone headphones. I have a pair of Bose on-ears but recently bought a well-reviewed and deeply discounted pair of over-ear headphones. Yes, there’s a difference.
 

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7. Portable battery/charger

Man, these things are absolute LIFE SAVERS. Get it, like battery life? From the research I’ve done, Anker is the undisputed king in this category. Their portable batteries come in all shapes and sizes with a variety of ports. I got the small model - it fits in my pocket and backpack super easily.

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8. Lightweight cotton sheets

Maybe you’re still using your sheets from college, but we were fortunate enough to get a set of 600 thread count sheets as a wedding gift. They’re unbelievably soft and cozy, but they retain heat like nobody’s business. This does not bode well in a Georgia summer.

I did some research recently and found Brooklinen sheets had the highest ratings. (This is a referral link btw. You buy anything and Maggie and I get some credit. Thanks in advance!) As an avid Casper brand evangelist, it pained me to go off-brand. One cannot ignore reviews, though. These 270 thread count sheets were exactly what the doctor ordered. No more waking up sweaty for this couple. Bonus points if you get polka dot sheets because you know your wife will think they're "cute." 
 

9. Game night options

We are big board/card game people. Okay, I’M a big board gamer and I’ve converted Maggie. Having a couple beers with friends while crushing them in not-Monopoly is the perfect Sunday night for us. (Seriously, Monopoly is the worst.) Not all game nights are created equal, though. Cards Against Humanity (or Exploding Kittens, Utter Nonsense, etc) is awesome for 6 or more people - we just bought an expansion for this exact reason. But nothing beats a rousing, yes rousing, game of Settlers of Catan, 7 Wonders, or Pandemic with another couple or small group of friends. Make sure you have options.

10. TV upgrades

What does this have to do with summer, you ask? Isn’t summer for going outside? Yes, but the night is dark and full of terrors. For all you non-Westerosi out there, Game of Thrones is coming back this summer. So is House of Cards. And Orange is the New Black. Invest in your binging viewing experience by grabbing a soundbar - your TV speakers aren’t doing Jon Snow’s brooding justice. There are options as cheap as $150, but I spent a bit more when I upgraded.

We recently bought a strip of bias lights. They’re supposed to reduce eye strain and increase the perceived on-screen contrast. Or something. I’m enjoying them so far.


There you have it. Go forth and shop. 

What are you planning on buying this summer? Let us know!

Happy Friday! (And a Jord Watches Giveaway!)

By Maggie Reimherr

Happy Friday, y'all! We are Oxford, MS bound for my sister’s college graduation. A college graduation that comes with an adventure to a cool little Southern town? Yes, please. We’re excited to eat some delicious Southern food, attend a graduation at Ole Miss’s famous Grove, drink cocktails (and, since it's a college town, light beer) at the local watering holes, and maybe even go on a literary adventure - William Faulkner’s old home, Rowan Oak, is in town!

And I know y'all know Mother’s Day is this weekend, too. I hope you have your gifts ready. Your mom deserves better than Kroger flowers.

Finally - shameless plug to myself - my birthday is on Mother's Day. I'm turning 25, which I feel like legitimizes me as an adult. Derek seems to have some birthday surprises up his sleeve, and I'm also super happy that on the morning of my birthday, I'll be with my family before we head back to Atlanta after the weekend in Mississippi.

With a graduation, a Mother’s Day, and a birthday this weekend, there are a ton of gift-giving occasions set before us. If Jord Watches hadn't been so generous to send me one of their gorgeous wood watches, one of these bad boys would definitely be on my birthday wish list. I love the Frankie Zebrawood and Navy women's watch they sent me!

I'll admit, we weren't the best planners for Mother's Day and my sister’s graduation so we couldn't get this unique Mother's Day gift (shout out to Williams Sonoma and checkbooks for saving us). But guess what? In two weeks, we have another graduation - my baby brother’s all grown up and graduating from high school - and Father's Day is just around the corner. Jord has super trendy men’s watch styles too! The best part? You can make it an engraved gift and personalize it however you like!

If you know me, you know my style has been more preppy than hip. I've been rocking J Crew cardigans since I was 17. But this cool watch has made me want to turn over a new, more fashionable leaf. So I'm wearing my wood watch to graduation this weekend with a trendy jumpsuit!

Derek and I are partnering with Jord to give away a $100 gift card toward their beautiful watches. You can enter below!

What are y'all up to this weekend?! And how cute are Jord's watches?! Leave us a note in the comments or on social media - and don't forget to enter the giveaway!

Everything You Need to Know About Cheap Caribbean's Deal of Fortune

By Maggie Reimherr

If you've been following along on Instagram and Facebook, you know that we got a killer deal on our Mexico vacation. The catch? We didn't know which resort we were heading to until a week before the trip. We chose to book through Cheap Caribbean and rolled the dice on their Deal of Fortune.

I wrote about the process of deciding to throw caution to the wind and book this mystery vacation over here a while back. (Side note: check there for my booking tips.) To recap: we decided to book a Deal of Fortune because I read every review on the Internet and thoroughly researched each resort option in the package we chose. We chose the 5-Sun Cancun deal specifically because we were cool with landing at any of the hotels listed.

Now we’re home from the trip. Did we like it? Was it an amazing find or a scam? Let's find out…

We got an email a week before revealing we'd be staying at Secrets The Vine Cancun, ranked #3 among every Cancun hotel on TripAdvisor. We knew we liked the Secrets brand because we stayed at Secrets Maroma Beach for our honeymoon last year. We also knew this was another resort that people rave about in this chain of properties. We were stoked. Side note: we’ll publish a separate post reviewing Secrets the Vine and comparing the 2 resorts in case you're booking a Secrets vacation soon and having trouble deciding.

So to give y'all a sense of just how good of a deal it was, let's talk numbers. We were at an all inclusive resort. That means unlimited food and drinks (yes, alcohol, too) were included in our package. Also included? A “run of house” room, fancy wording for “cheapest room we've got.” And finally… our price through Cheap Caribbean included airfare. I've priced it out below:

Full price 7 night trip for 2:
Run of house room booked directly through Secrets the Vine: $4500/week
Airfare (BOS to CUN to compare because we booked this out of Boston): $1200
Shared round trip transfer from airport to hotel: $60
Total: $5760

Our Cheap Caribbean Deal of Fortune 7 night trip for 2:
Total for run of house room, all inclusive food + drinks, airfare (BOS to CUN), shared round trip transfer: $2800

Yep, you read that right. We got a half price trip.

So should you book a Deal of Fortune even though you won't know where you're going until a week before? HELL yes. Spice up your life and save mucho dinero, folks!

Derek and I kept talking about how the trip felt like stealing because it was like, “Are they making any money off of us?” We honestly don't know how the finances work on their side. But we do know that as long as the Deal of Fortune exists, we will never, ever, ever book a full price resort vacation again.

The cool thing about getting such a stellar deal is that the pressure is off to get alllllll the bang for your buck. You want to lay at the pool all day, every day and participate in 0 activities? Go for it. Want to go to bed early and skip the evening show? Done. Wanna head up to your room at 3 o'clock and binge watch an entire series on Netflix? You're free to do that (and… guilty. We watched all of 13 Reasons Why on this trip).

On the flip side, you made it to a luxury resort in the Caribbean for half price. So live it up! Eat nachos by the pool, drink those unlimited margaritas and Coronas, go to the tequila tasting at 4 o'clock in the afternoon (#didthat), sing along to the cover bands at the evening shows, and order a 5-course meal just because you're on vacation.

I shared booking tips in my previous post about choosing the Deal of Fortune, so to figure out how to book, head over there. Now time for some DoF/all inclusive resort tips for when you're actually on vacation…

TIPS:

  • Bring cash to tip. You scored an awesome deal. Don't be stingy to the waitstaff.
  • If you're a honeymooner, be aware that the “run of house” room might be 2 queen beds. If your heart is set on enjoying your honeymoon on a luxurious king bed, set aside extra money in your budget and see if you can upgrade to a king suite once you get there. They offered us the upgrade to a king room in the "preferred club" section of the resort (which also would've allowed us access to an additional pool and breakfast/lunch restaurant) at $90 a night. We declined and took the 2 queens. And yes, because they knew this trip was for our anniversary, they left rose petals on one of our queen beds the first night. 
  • Also, honeymooners… I don't know if this is the standard across all resorts, but at both Secrets we've stayed at, the toilet was in a room that was basically just a frosted glass closet. So beware that not only are you adjusting to being married to a person, but you're also gonna have to get real comfortable with bathroom stuff real fast. Good luck.
  • If you're planning on a truly budget-friendly vacation without any extra activities, 7 nights may be a little long. The daytime activity schedule is fairly repetitive each day (but the entertainment staff is fantastic!), so you may feel a little bored of 7 straight days poolside. We booked an excursion, and I'm super glad we did to get away from the resort for a day. (Cancun specific tip: y'all have to go to Isla Mujeres. Book a catamaran excursion like we did - if you’re a Cheap Caribbean customer, you can book through your Amstar rep in the hotel lobby - or just hop on the ferry over to the island. Rent a golf cart. Barter for souvenirs with the locals. Eat an authentic Mexican meal, but take it from us - taste the sauce before you douse your burrito in habanero salsa and plz don't set your mouth on fire like we did.)
  • Bring a laptop for show/movie watching on lazy nights. We had a smart TV in our room but the smart part didn't actually work, so we ended up watching Netflix on Derek’s laptop a few nights.
  • Don't overpack. No, Maggie, you did not need that second pair of wedges.
  • Along those lines… if you don't regularly work out, you aren't going to start on vacation. Leave the 5 Fabletics outfits at home. Drink your pina coladas and pay for your sins when you get home.
  • If you need something, just ask… but know that it might be slow getting to you. All-inclusive resorts tend to run at their own pace. So when you order a water and a margarita from the pool waiter, you may not actually see those things for a half hour. Be patient. You're on beach time.
  • Eat your vegetables. It's so easy to let nutrition go by the wayside when you have an array of DELICIOUS foods at your fingertips 24/7. But trust me, if you don't eat your veggies, you won't be feeling good. Derek and I skipped karaoke night, which I would NEVER NORMALLY DO, because we were physically ill from eating too many carbs all week. Oops.
  • Stock up on sunscreen and other essentials back home. You don't want to pay resort gift shop prices for that SPF.
  • Take advantage of the onsite entertainment options! Last year, we went to a Beatles cover show at Secrets Maroma Beach that we’re still talking about. This year, we loved the Jersey Boys show at The Vine. 
  • For airport transfer… we booked shared transfer through Amstar and lucked out. We ended up having a van to ourselves on the way to the resort from the airport. On the way from the resort, we shared with one family. It cost us about $100 less than private transfer would, but I've heard it's a bit of a gamble... you could end up on a bus and stop at every resort along the strip before you get to yours.
  • Check ahead of time to see if the resort offers honeymoon/anniversary perks. Secrets brought a complimentary bottle of champagne to our room to kick off our stay as a little anniversary gift.

So all that being said... Cheers! Your vacation awaits! And now we want to hear from you… would you book the Deal of Fortune now that you've read about our experience?! And resort veterans - what are your all inclusive travel tips? Leave us a note in the comments or on social media!

The Bachelor, A Husband's Commentary: Episode 8

By Derek Reimherr

*Sigh*, time to jump back into this circus again. The Reimherrs have had a crazy few weeks (more to come soon). Sorry if you wanted any commentary on Corrine’s antics. I had the apartment to myself and played video games instead of watching Nick cry a bunch.

This week was all about hometown dates. Let’s do this.

Photo: ABC

Photo: ABC


Raven

Scene opens in Hoxie, Arkansas - small town, Southern life. This is what awful country songs are inspired by. Except in real life it’s quaint and nice and those country songs are still awful. Looking at you Florida-Georgia Line.

Raven and Nick go muddin’, because of course they do. And they make out in the mud because...wait, no that’s not an “of course” moment. Y’all ever been in a marsh/swamp/mud pit? I have. There are bugs everywhere and it sucks. I once got pinned underneath a 4-wheeler in a mud pit for about 30 mins, but that’s a different story for a different time.

They walk up to the top of a grain bin and the local sheriff’s department busts them for trespassing. JK, surprise (not)! Raven’s brother is a local cop and apparent prankster. Gooooood one.

On to Raven’s parents’ house, adorned with a GO HOGS wreath on the front door. Woo Pig Sooie. Welcome to Arkansas!

Here we see Nick get to awkwardly be a part of some personal family moments. Her parents share that after a tough few years battling lung cancer, her Dad is cancer free. My only choice at this point is to be Team Raven. I would’ve lost my Bachelor Fantasy League because obviously Danielle vs Danielle didn’t happen.


Rachel

Next up: Dallas, TX for Rachel’s hometown date. We already know where this is going because Rachel’s the next Bachelorette. (Spoiler alert, there were leaks. If you missed them, your fault. I’m a dude who barely gets through the show and I even know about that.) So this feels like kind of a waste of time knowing that in the end, there’s no happy ending for Rachel and Nick.

Rachel takes Nick out of his element and takes him to her church - a black church. Nick really needs to work on his rhythm game. I’ve seen more rhythm in a middle school kid’s game room playing Rock Band.

The church segment makes way for the discussions about race and interracial dating that are central to this date. It’s nice to see ABC not shying away from that.

We head to meet Rachel’s family. Her sister is married to a white guy, so they chat with her sister and brother-in-law about their interracial relationship - and the challenges they might face in that. All of the conversations about race really tee things up nicely for Rachel to head into being the first black Bachelorette.

After seeing this hometown date and knowing Rachel is the new Bachelorette, I think we’re all curious - what the heck goes wrong with these two? Things have seemed to be great for them since the beginning. I guess we’ll find out soon.


Corrine

Miami, FL: home of beautiful beaches and culture and Corrine. And what do you know? A day in the life of Corrine is full of...shopping.

Some quotes sum this date up better than I can:

“Corrine is on a first name basis with everyone in a store. It’s like Christmas morning to the people at the store.”

“An ordinary day to Corrine is an unordinary day to literally everyone else.”

“Nick was a little in shock about how much everything costs. I wasn’t. Hehehehehe.”

Their day ends up being an $8,000 shopping trip. More than the value of my entire wardrobe probably.

Next, we meet Corrine’s family and the now-famous Raquel. Corrine’s family is actually very nice? Is that the word I’m looking for?

She and her dad chat about Nick: “I told him I loved him. What? We’ve been dating for a month and a half.” I want to make fun of this, but Maggie and I only dated for 2 months before we said, “I love you.” So I can’t talk.

Corrine’s dad and Nick have a chance to chat:
“What are your intentions with her?”
“Uh, um, urrrr.” Super reassuring.

Oh, and Nick also obtains Raquel’s blessing. Very important. Quick note on this. She shouldn’t be called a nanny. She’s clearly more of an Alfred from Batman. So caretaker? Housekeeper? Just feels a bit demeaning to call her a nanny.

Our friend Kara has this theory: Corrine’s going to win. Nick clearly likes her, and also, they kind of deserve each other. We’ll see.


Vanessa

To Montreal we go. Vanessa takes Nick to meet her students since she’s a teacher for adults with special needs. These students are so sweet. Vanessa is a champ. She’s clearly a great teacher with a big heart for her students.

Next, we meet Vanessa’s mom’s side of the family. I want to be a part of this Sunday lunch. The Italian food looks out of this world. Molto bene.

Vanessa’s family expresses concerns about the logistics of their relationship: is Nick moving to Montreal? What are their plans for the future? Have you guys even talked about this? Answer: no.

These people seem to be very sane about relationships. But they don’t seem to understand how The Bachelor works.

Then we go to meet Vanessa’s dad. He also has concerns. Nick asks if he’d be okay with an engagement. Vanessa’s dad asks the tough questions: “Have you asked the other parents the same question?” “Ummm errr yes in a way?” It’s a yes or no question, buddy. And the answer is yes.

Vanessa finds out that Nick asked the other parents for their blessing, and she’s upset. Reminder: YOU ARE ON THE BACHELOR. What do you expect?!


Of course, we don’t get to find out what happens at the rose ceremony until next week. And in the meantime, Andi will show up to presumably ruin Nick’s life (again).

We’ll see what happens on the next dramatic episode of The Bachelor. Thank God this is almost over.


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The Bachelor, A Husband's Commentary: Episode 6

By Derek Reimherr

Let's get it started by making it clear: this episode sucked. It was a nice departure from the usual Corrine show. But otherwise, the whining and moping was so irritating. Now that we've gotten that out of the way, let's dive in.


Hi, Taylor!
Bye, Taylor!

Drama, drama, drama. Corrine is deluded. Nick likes the, ah, assets. So time will tell, right?

Cocktail party, CANCELED. That’s what happens when you make things too difficult (or easy?) for the Bachelor. There’s heaviness in the heart. Beating so fast no one can take it. Literally.

Rose Ceremony:

Who’s safe?

  • Corrine
  • Danielle M
  • Rachel

Who made the cut?

  • Christina
  • Raven
  • Vanessa
  • Danielle L (the Danielle vs. Danielle finals are still in play!!)
  • Jasmine
  • WHITNEY?! WHAT?! MYSTERY WOMAN SURVIVES?!

Say goodbye to:

  • Josephine
  • Jamie (not surprised)
  • Alexis :(

We did not deserve you, dolphin queen.

1-on-1

Christina is really sweet. She has a lot going on that this show probably can’t do justice to. She’s got this athleisure look that ballgown dresses don’t really show off.

Meanwhile Corrine’s at the Marriott like…

“Everyone needs a Lorna. She’s like just as good as Racquel... Hey, um, my dress is wrinkled. Can you help me?”

Back to the date.

Christina was born in Russia and had a tough childhood. It was pretty heartbreaking hearing her story. I’m glad she got the rose.

Group Date

Sorry, Jasmine. Still no 1-on-1. But Nothing else has changed, he’s still obsessed with Corrine.

Raven gives us this gem:

All these girls are NOT feeling the volleyball game and I can’t blame them. There’s no opportunity to be on an even remotely normal date. The whining and crying was pretty stupid, though.

“I don’t wannnna play anymore. This is stupid. I’m done.” Oooookay, let’s just go cry separately on the beach. Super mature move, gals.

Rachel is comin’ at Nick HARD. She is not feeling the group date. And it’s borderline disrespectful and selfish. Actually, it’s just disrespectful and selfish. You knew what you were getting yourself into, ladies. TTSU.

The highlight of this date is definitely the ladies’ reactions to Jasmine’s endless ranting. And Nick reacted the exact same way.

“Didn’t have the best, um, conversation with Jasmine.” YA THINK.

I’m glad that she’s going home. She went borderline cray with that whole “chokie” thing. Yikes.

Good for Raven getting the date rose, tho. She seemed like the only one not crying on the beach.

2-on-1

“Do you hold hands on both sides on a 2-on-1?” - Maggie

Next scene: Holding hands on both sides walking down the beach.

Is it just me or did Nick look bored by Whitney? Idk. He said the right things (“Did you realize you’re actually really beautiful?”), but his body language was...meh. Danielle L and he had a much better connection.

Goodbye, mystery woman Whitney. Real quick, how hilarious was the random bag guy? The tense moment in the ladies' suite...and then this dude in boots and shorts shows up to wheel out the suitcase.

I guess Whitney is being stranded on that beach with a luxurious canopy bed to live out her days. Like what a ridiculous picture of her crying while a helicopter takes off in the background.

Cut to dinner with Danielle and WOW, okay, could he have felt LESS of a connection with her at that dinner table? His mind looked like it was out on a pasture in Wisconsin or something. Bye, bye, Danielle L.

How the heck did we get down to 6 women already?! Nick’s dramatic announcement to them about his fears seemed… unnecessary? Like I said about Rachel earlier, TTSU.


I don’t know about you, but I think the preview for next week was highly unsettling. When you have 6 girlfriends who all know about each other, it’s probably best to hold off on the… err… physical aspect of the relationship. Maggie informed me about the drama that ensued when Nick was on Kaitlyn’s season. Hopefully he’s learned his lesson.

What do y’all think? Will Nick take the bait with Corrine? Find out on next week’s episode of the most dramatic season of The Bachelor yet.


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How to Plan a Surprise Engagement (+ Free Shower Invitations Giveaway!)

By Derek Reimherr

Today we’ve got something exciting for y'all on Millennial Marriage - a Paperless Post giveaway! Read about how I planned our engagement. Then find out how you can enter the giveaway at the bottom of this post.


Hopeless romantic. I didn’t like to admit it, but I was one for most of my dating life.

Message in a bottle? Did it.
Scavenger hunt date? You betcha.
Gift basket of all her “favorite things?” Believe it.

For the most part, I learned these dramatic gestures weren’t really necessary. They sure made me seem like the best boyfriend ever on social media, though. Fake internet points and all that.

I mostly toned it down when Maggie and I started dating. It was pretty clear a couple months into our relationship that we were probably going to get married.

BUT...when it did come time to propose, I knew I had to go big. I started saving up for a ring in the fall of 2015. I was living in Los Angeles and I took my friend Tyler with me to a wholesale jewelry market while I was home for Christmas. I got a GREAT deal from Chaplin’s in the Mart in Atlanta.

My initial plan was to hang onto the ring for a few months. I wanted to wait until I got relocated through work in the spring of 2016. It was only fair to give Maggie a chance to say “Yes” when she knew what she was getting into, right?

Yeah, that didn’t happen.

After 3 days of the ring sitting on my dresser, I knew I wouldn’t be able to wait another 3 or 4 months to propose. I was ready to get engaged (and here are some things to consider if you’re thinking about getting engaged). So I concocted a plan. And y’all better believe...I was going BIG for this engagement.

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Step 1: Make a plan.

Maggie recently talked about this on the blog, so I’ll spare you the details. But here’s a summary:

  • Go to Athens, GA where we went to school
  • Lunch at our favorite restaurant
  • A walk through campus where we met
  • Pedicures (something Maggie always teased me about doing) and a manicure for Maggie
  • Wine and cheese - my wife loves it
  • A walk through the State Botanical Gardens where we had our first kiss
  • Propose!
  • Surprise dinner with family
  • Surprise engagement party

Sounds pretty simple when you put it like that, right?

Step 2: Find a photographer

As someone who just bought a very expensive ring and was saving up for a honeymoon, I couldn’t afford to go crazy. Luckily, I have a great friend named Allie Blinder who’s a talented photographer. She gave me a great deal (and absolutely crushed it, btw). She hid in the bushes and took pictures throughout the whole proposal.

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Step 3: Shoot a video

I contacted about 15 people for a video shoot (while I was in California) and used a local amateur videographer to film and cut a video. I showed this to her right before I proposed. They said sweet things. It made Maggie cry. #winning

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Step 4: Coordinate a dinner with our parents post-proposal

This could’ve been tricky, but our parents are absolute champs. They drove an hour and a half to meet us for dinner.

Step 5: Coordinate a surprise engagement party in less than 2 weeks

Can you guess this was the toughest part? I’ll break it down.

  • Location. We settled on my parent’s house because it could accommodate enough people...but unfortunately it was pretty inconveniently located for a lot of people.
  • Catering. Shout out to Tam’s Backstage for an awesome meal.
  • Pictures. My Mom got us another great deal through Amber Cloy Photographer since they were friends. Score.
  • Send out invitations. Now, here’s something I wish we could’ve done differently. We used a simple e-vite, but if we had to do it all over again, we would’ve used Paperless Post.
  • Keep. It. Quiet.

The last part wasn’t easy. But luckily my wife is an oblivious person who made it so easy. Shout out to Maggie for being so unsuspicious!

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So we mentioned earlier that we’re giving away some free Paperless Post goodies. This means wedding shower invitations, engagement party invitations, rehearsal dinner invitations, save the dates, or whatever you’re planning FO’ FREE. And then after all the wedding festivities are over...time for free baby shower invitations, right? 

If you’re randomly selected as the winner, you get 1000 Paperless Post coins - a $90 value! On their website, 2-3 coins typically = one recipient of your invite. That’s 300-500 recipients - invitations for so many parties, guys! Check out these sample invitations. Insert heart eye emoji, am I right?

To enter the giveaway, all you have to do is leave a comment on this post about one of these things:

  1. How you proposed/got proposed to
  2. The best surprise you’ve ever gotten
  3. Your best party planning advice

The deadline to leave your comment is a week from today - February 8, 2017. So scroll down and comment away - good luck!

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Note: this giveaway is in partnership with Nakturnal.

The Bachelor, A Husband's Commentary: Episode 5

By Derek Reimherr

It's Tuesday again, so y'all know what that means. I put myself through another episode of The Bachelor. I'm beginning to regret agreeing to write about this. But since I'm doing it anyway, get caught up on last week's episode here. Now let's dive in.


WWE SUPERSLAM: NANNY’S GIRL VS. PSYCHIC PSYCHO

Tale of the tape:

  • Corrine, 23-year-old “business owner” who likes to get naked and LOVES her nanny, Raquel. Possibly an alcoholic. Best lines:
    • “Come at me, I’ll getcha”
    • “She’s a big, mean, nasty, swamp monster.”
  • Taylor, 23-year-old mental health counselor who “literally can’t” and thinks she better than other people. But dang, her posture is good. Best lines:
    • “Do you know what emotional intelligence is?”
    • That’s it. She’s not as entertainingly dramatic.

This is my first Bachelor catfight. Also, they’re drunk, at least tipsy. This feud is giving me a headache, though.

Who made the cut:

  • Whitney - WHO ARE YOU MYSTERY WOMAN. Literally they don’t show her ever.
  • Danielle M - my girl.
  • Jasmine
  • Rachel - Maggie totally called this one with all the dramatic interviewing.
  • Jamie
  • Danielle L
  • Josephine
  • Vanessa
  • Corrine
  • Alexis
  • Taylor

Who already had a rose:

  • Raven
  • Kristina

Who went home:

  • Sarah - noooooooooo
  • Astrid

Down to NOLA

My new goal is “Spot the Whitney.” This woman is a freaking chameleon. I will discover her secrets.

What we’re looking at:

  • 1-on-1
  • Group date
  • 2-on-1

Okay, 2-on-1 date sounds hilarious and awkward. But apparently that’s just par for the course with this show.


1-on-1 Date: Rachel

PHOTO: MARK COFFEY

PHOTO: MARK COFFEY

Rachel and Nick gallivant around New Orleans shopping and goofing off and eating oysters. TBH they seem like a pretty normal couple here. Don’t be fooled. There are 10 other girls contending for his affection.

They eat beignets, which is decidedly unsexy. Have y’all ever eaten one of these? Powdered sugar gets all over your pants and then you walk around with white powder stains for the rest of the day. And they make your hands sticky.

They dance and lead a parade and THIS WAS TOTALLY SPONTANEOUS, right guys?! The other girls watch them from the window of their tall tower (hotel). Everybody’s jealous.

They go to a bar and dance to some live music. Me: “Is this musician famous?” Maggie: “I’m sure her agent got her on the show and now we have to listen to her for 30 seconds.”

As per usual, their date leads to dinner at some undisclosed private location. Rachel and Nick share some heartfelt moments. Rachel talks about the last time she was in New Orleans - for a funeral - and how being back in the city for a new beginning feels like coming full circle. Nick shares his concerns that when he asks his future wife’s dad for her hand in marriage, he’s worried that his words won’t carry much weight because he’s asked 2 dads before (Andi’s and Kaitlyn’s).

These two are definitely clicking. I ship it. Unsurprisingly, Rachel gets the rose.

Meanwhile at the hotel… the other girls get a date card. Corinne and Taylor are going on the 2-on-1. DRAMA.


Group Date

“I didn’t sign up to be a ghostbuster. I’m gonna rebuke that thing in the name of Jesus.” Raven is a southerner. Everyone should be like Raven.

The group goes to a haunted mansion. Once again, drinking is a focal point of the show. Bring on the mint juleps!...aaaand now I want one.

I swear, Whitney is on this date and they aren’t showing her. OH I lied. They just showed her. But I still haven’t heard her speak. Maybe she’s the ghost…

This is by far my favorite date so far. I’m enjoying watching the ladies flip the eff out.

Y’ALL THEY SHOWED A VIDEO INTERVIEW WITH WHITNEY. SHE’S NOT A GHOST.

Aaaaaand now we’re back to weirdness with the stupid Oujia board. Okay but forreal, I have to be honest with y’all....I effing hate dolls. They freak the hell out of me.

Meanwhile, Jasmine's over here like:

MAJOR KEY: WHITNEY AND NICK ARE TALKING. Guys, sorry, but this is big. This. is. Big.

So I had this thought: wouldn’t you get tired of kissing constantly? I don’t know. Kissing is pretty fun, but maybe not like 8 different people a day?

HOLD. UP. Raven...is in love...with Nick? After 3 weeks? His reaction (along with mine):

Great job, Danielle M. I’m starting to think you’re too good for this show. But I’m happy to see her win the group date rose.


2-on-1: Corrine vs. Rachel

BORN ON THE BAYOU, y’all. There should be Creedence Clearwater Revival playing in the background. And the fact that it’s not makes me really upset.

“I’m a voodoo priestess.” Things you run far, far away from when you hear on a first date. Swipe left.

The tarot cards were pretty on the nose. A ouija board AND voodoo in the same episode? This just is too much for me. The worst part? NIck is going to send Taylor home. When Corrine is the literal worst.

“The relationship will be built off of whip cream and lies.” Dang straight, Taylor.

But I called it. He’s such a douchebag to pick Corrine, but it’s good to know she won’t make it very far.


And of course, Alexis brings it home for us: “If I saw a ghost that looked like Nicholas Cage, I would sprint outta here...I kissed Nicholas Cage anyway.”

Do I get a medal for surviving another episode of this madness? See y'all next week for more Corrine/Taylor drama and apparently Nick's first tears of the season.