It's Millennial Marriage's 1st Birthday!

By Maggie Reimherr

So today we’re celebrating a birthday - Derek and I published our first post on Millennial Marriage 1 year ago today.

We started for a few reasons:

  • We had stories to tell - like the time I thought I was going to bleed to death on our honeymoon (joking) or the time we almost got scammed out of $3000 in an apartment rental scheme.
  • 2 months into marriage, we'd already found ourselves doling out marriage advice. We’re not experts, but we’re pretty good at being married to each other. If something works for us, why not share it?
  • We’re both pretty good writers, if we do say so ourselves.
  • We'd both tried and failed to blog in the past and thought, “Maybe if we do this together, we'll hold each other accountable to sticking with it.” And so far, it's worked. Admittedly, we've had a few months when we've only published a post or two, but we never jumped ship.
  • This time last year, I was trying to figure out what the heck I wanted to do with my life and my career. I was having trouble coping with the day-to-day monotony of my old job, and I needed a creative outlet. I had also wondered if writing/content marketing was a potential career for me. Ultimately, I decided it wasn't what I wanted to do professionally… but it's a whole lot of fun.

And here we are a year later with…

  • 3 brand partnerships under our belt
  • 4200+ Instagram followers
  • 10.7K unique visitors to the site
  • 25.6K lifetime pageviews
  • Newfound expertise in iPhone photography
  • Even more stories to share

We love doing this blogging thing. And we've worked hard so far to get where we are. I can't tell you how many hours we've spent researching what works and what doesn't work for bloggers, how much effort it took to build up our Instagram following, and how challenging it can sometimes be to come up with ideas for quality posts when you're juggling a million other things. One of our biggest lessons this year was that you don’t just start a blog and sit back and go viral. You have to hustle.

 We had blog goals in our first year… mainly “stick with it” and “insta followers galore.” Now that we've done that satisfactorily, we have some more things planned for year 2. Our #goals for year 2 of Millennial Marriage are: 

  • New posts on Tuesday and Thursday... every single week.
  • Growing our social media platforms - especially on Facebook and Twitter - and get more active on those platforms. Shout out to Instagram for being a great platform for us to share pics and connect with readers and other bloggers. (Have you liked/followed us? No? Why the heck not?! Do it.)
  • More advice based on what we've learned so far in our marriage. It's been more than a year, so we’re obviously hella wise now. Joking, but really… we've learned a lot and we’re going to share it.
  • More quality lifestyle content. Travel guides and Atlanta restaurant recommendations? Let's do it.
  • More brand partnerships. Hey travel brands, wanna send us on a free trip? Plz hmu.

Honestly, there are way too many bloggers on the internet. And most aren’t writing anything worth reading. No knock on them - we know as much as the next blogger that doing this is fun, so do your thing! But because there’s such an oversaturated market, you kinda have to love it - there's a one in a million chance you can turn blogging into a career when there’s so much out there grabbing people’s attention. But we also decided in the beginning that while this is for fun, we always want to share stories and advice and thoughts that are a good read. We’re not going to post subpar content just to post. These are some of the posts we’re most proud of from the past year - a little fun, a little storytelling, and a few life lessons...

To everyone who’s stuck with us over the past year - THANK YOU for following along as we try to figure out marriage and adulthood.

Now we want to hear from you… what do you want to see more of from us in the next year? Any topics you'd love for us to cover? Let us know in the comments, on social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram), or in an email!

What I've Learned about the 6 Different Types of Workplaces

By Derek Reimherr

If you missed the series intro, go back and take a look. I lay out my motivation for this series and why I even feel qualified to write about this topic.

A quick recap: I’m 26 years old and I’ve had 30 managers, 22 different jobs and worked in 15 different industries. And I’ve learned a lot about work from all those different experiences. With that background, let’s talk about work environments.

I think companies/offices generally fall into these 6 categories:

  • Hourly Mentality
  • The Traditional Office
  • GET SH!T DONE
  • Growing Pains
  • The Contractor’s Dream
  • Progressive Workplace

Generally speaking, I’m focusing on the feel of the office and the way people approach work. My goal is not to pass judgment but offer commentary. If you feel I’ve missed niches or subcategories, please let me know! Let’s dive in.

Hourly Mentality

Everyone has worked in this type of job before. These are typically hourly workplaces. Zooming out, there are several more defining characteristics of these workplaces:

  • Focused on the short-term, very little emphasis on higher-level strategy.
  • You’ll hear the “Not my job” sentiment or something along those lines. “Someone else will take care of that.”
  • Often stuck in reactive panic mode dealing with “fires” as they pop up.

In this work environment, people show up, do their 8 hours (or shift), and go home. Employees don’t care about the company at large - they want a paycheck. They're great when you’re looking for a part-time job, internship, or starting out. This isn’t the place you want to build a career.

The Traditional Office or "Out of Touch"

Ah, the office of our parents and grandparents. It’s famous business professional attire, lack of benefits and/or perks, and very few, if any, casual days. These offices are typically technology regressive or resistant to change. 

Maybe everything is printed or you’re still using Office 2003. Perhaps no one has heard of Dropbox, Box, or Google Drive. You're probably not seeing many perks unless it’s a big company. #CorporateLife

Workplaces like this struggle with hiring younger demographics. Candidates and new employees question a lot about these workplaces.

Why can’t we wear jeans?
Why there are only 8 PTO days per year?
Where’s the sense of team camaraderie?

As such, you’re likely to see “lifers” in these offices - people who have been there for many years. And because of that, you’ll often hear the sentiment, “Well, we’ve always done it this way. Why change now?”

GET SH!T DONE

You might be laughing at me for the all caps, but I promise it has a purpose. These offices transcend categorization by demographics, perks, or vibe. These teams focus on the end product, customer, or sales. A better descriptor is intense. It could be a result of unorganized project managers, unrealistic deadlines, or an unhealthy internal competition. Or everyone is hyper-focused on delivering good work and not much else.

Consider this: a startup with a beer cart, ping pong table, standing desks, and unlimited PTO seems cool. But if you only talk about work with your co-workers or if you’re often working on the weekend, you might be in a GSD office. This might be ideal if you don’t much care for your workplace relationships and want to do great work. Beyond that, many people may experience burnout here.

Growing Pains

I imagine these as larger or more established companies with culture problems. The company is seeing a changing of the guard: Baby Boomers are retiring and millennials/Gen Xers make up most teams. Senior leadership looked at themselves and said, “We need to change.”

So management shook things up. New perks, revised management styles, and flexible work options were created. All good things. Sure, some employees are pushing back, feeling “left behind” or disgruntled. But, if you can stick it out, this could be a great place to work. In the meantime, there will be a lot of tension in the air.

The Contractor’s Dream

Nowadays, many teams operate in autonomous work groups or as individual contributors. These companies are may use contractors or part-timers as a sizable part of the team. Or they could be a flexible work-from-home or even entirely remote company. Or both.

Here, you can work multiple jobs or have side hustles. Less corporate hierarchy means you’re not dealing with layers of management. Say goodbye to micromanaging. You can come in, knock out your work, and move on. Some will feel disconnected working here, but others will love the freedom.

Progressive Workplace

(Full disclosure: This is the kind of place I work at now.)

The majority of the Gen X and Millennials are looking for this kind of job. This workplace values corporate responsibility, transparency, work/life balance, among other these. Co-workers openly discuss traditionally taboo topics: race issues, cultural backgrounds, sexual orientation (LGBTQIA+), and political views. These companies create employee engagement programs with team building, happy hours, and retreats. And yes, they’re usually agencies, startups, and tech companies.

For many workers, it’s too much. Not everyone wants to discuss their personal life at work. Many people don’t want to work in an open or remote office. Some don’t want to be friends with their co-workers. That’s okay and there will always be other options. But for a lot of people, this is the dream.

--

To be fair, most offices operate on a spectrum, overlapping several different categories. But I think workplaces generally lean in one direction over the others.

Here's a story to illustrate why this is important. A little over a year ago, I was working at a Global Fortune 10 company. The pay and benefits were great. The advancement opportunity was there. But the environment was in the "Growing Pains" stage at best and the "Out of Touch" at worst. Managers were technologically challenged - I was often asked to convert Word docs to PDF and print for my boss. The office wasted so many resources (human capital, paper, time, etc). Every day, I came home from work unhappy and complaining. It drove Maggie CRAZY. Even though I had to take a pay cut, I knew I had to get out of there for the sake of my personal and marital health.

It’s vital for all of us to take a step back and identify the environment we’re in. If we like it, why? If we hate it, why? Your satisfaction and fulfillment at work bleeds over into the rest of your life. Consider this: if you're unhappy from 9-5, do you spend more on the weekends to balance out? Or does your significant other regularly bemoan your poor attitude? Understanding where you currently are can help shape where you want to go or whether you should stay put.

Do you think I’m wrong? Did I totally miss the mark? Let me know. Next up, we’re talking about management and leadership.

Lessons I've Learned from 30 managers and 22 jobs

BY: DEREK REIMHERR

I started a new job in Atlanta recently (and so did Maggie) which seems like a good time to look backward. How far have I come? It's a doozy. I’m 26 years old and I’ve had 30 managers, 22 different jobs and worked in 15 different industries. Don’t believe me? Let’s break it down:

  • 10 part-time, minimum wage-type jobs
    • Soccer referee
    • Intramural sports referee (think flag football, soccer, ultimate frisbee)
    • Department store cashier
    • Clothing store associate
    • Camp counselor
    • University dining hall worker (I made awesome grilled sandwiches)
    • Pizza delivery driver
    • Restaurant/bar server
    • Caregiver/babysitter
    • University academic tutor
    • 2 apprenticeship/development-type jobs
    • Non-profit Lighting Production Assistant
    • Non-profit Communications and Social Media Associate
  • 7 internship or similar positions
    • Event venue Marketing Intern
    • Real estate brokerage Marketing Intern
    • Newspaper Marketing Coordinator
    • Mobile app Sales and Marketing Coordinator
    • University psychology Research Assistant
    • Food and beverage corporation Field Sales Intern
    • Auto parts company Marketing Intern
  • 4 salaried positions
    • Corporate Analyst
    • Corporate Regional Marketing Associate
    • Marketing agency Social Media Specialist
    • Marketing agency Senior Social Media Analyst (omitted in total because new job)

I count the number of industries I’ve worked in or with at around 14. You might combine a couple of these, but the number is still in the double digits. A few examples: retail, non-profit, food and beverage, real estate, automotive, and agency/firm (or professional services, I guess). 

I’ve had more jobs than most people will have in their whole life. Since I was 16, I've only been unemployed for 6 months in total: two different semesters in college. At times, it was out of need. But oftentimes, I just wanted some extra spending money. I was fortunate enough to have parents who provided a lot of financial support but didn’t spoil me. They always encouraged me to work to earn the things I really wanted.

Because of this, you could argue I’ve got a pretty decent perspective on “work” that other people my age don’t have. Heck, I'd go out on a limb and say I have a perspective that many people will never have.

Furthermore, I’ve had managers from all walks of life: women and men, executive and contractor, millennial and baby boomer, corporate and small business, salaried and hourly, parents and non-parents, married and single, minority and white.

Disclaimer: in all my time, I’ve never had a direct report. I’m only 26 after all - doesn’t seem too unusual. Sure, I’ve led projects, onboarded and trained new employees, taught seminars/sessions, and coordinated teams. But it’s never been up to me whether someone stayed on the payroll.

Here’s the point: I’m going to write a multi-part series on work. I’ll talk about where I’ve seen culture motivate (and demoralize), how managers and leaders can empower (or discourage), and which employees succeed (or fail, myself included).

The goal is to provide you principles you can apply in your own vocation. There should be something here for you whether you’re:

  • Part-time, full-time, or salaried
  • A young professional or seasoned worker
  • An individual contributor
  • A new manager or a long-time manager
  • A senior leader or executive (Going out on a limb with this one. Maybe you’ll learn how to better lead new hires, manage up with your boss, or celebrate your team even if it’s just a birthday.)

This is important. We spend more time at work and with at co-workers than our loved ones. So examining our relationship with our jobs is beyond crucial. When I loved my job, I checked out at the office door. When I didn’t? It couldn’t help but bleed over into my relationship with Maggie. This discussion should provide a framework for you to evaluate your own situation.

We’re going to talk about the main factors that I’ve found influence work satisfaction the most: work environments, managers and leaders, compensation, and your personal performance. 

I’m really excited for this series. Stayed tuned for the next post all about work environments.

A Leap of Faith: Why I'm Making a Career Change

By Maggie Reimherr

By now you’ve heard the big news: the Reimherrs have moved to Atlanta! Derek explained the when, how, and why. Now I’m here to dive into the life and career change that actually made the move possible.

I'll be brutally honest: my year in Boston was a hard freaking year. Hello, quarter life crisis. Surprisingly for the first year of marriage, our actual marriage has nothing to do with that. But here’s what happened: I went from working for my beloved alma mater to working for a university I’d only seen in movies. The opportunity seemed so glamorous.

Then real life hit. With an hour long commute on the train every day and a 9-6 work schedule, I no longer felt like my life belonged to me. I was in Boston by marriage, not by a choice of my own. At times I took that out on Derek. He didn't really choose to be there either though - his big, corporate job moved him here. On top of my commute, I was realizing that the glamorous job opportunity was just...normal. And it wasn't using my natural strengths and abilities. I spent probably a third of my time working on spreadsheets. I'm not a spreadsheet kind of gal. I was a communications major.

My StrengthsFinder strengths are:

  1. Empathy - I can sense others' feelings by imagining myself in their shoes.
  2. Relator - I enjoy close relationships and working with others to achieve a goal.
  3. Communication - I find it easy to put thoughts into words.
  4. Developer - I recognize and cultivate the potential in others.
  5. Adaptability - I'm "go with the flow"... most of the time. 

I started thinking about careers where I could really harness those strengths for success. I don't have the time or money to go back to school and be a therapist, as these strengths might suggest I should do. So what else can I do? What’s a people-facing job that uses those skills? Our friend Tyler (who’s also gone through a career change) suggested recruiting.

Oh, duh.

It immediately felt like it could be the right fit. And when I saw the job description for a recruiting role at my new company, I thought, “Sign me up.” 

At the same time, I had a lot of thoughts going through my mind. I spent my whole college career and the last 2.5 years post-grad pursuing a fundraising career. What happens to all the time I’ve invested? I also loved the stability a job in higher education provided. For a lot of reasons, that's what I wanted for my life. Moving over to the private sector felt like a risk. I also worried that I'd disappoint people who've mentored me and invested time in my career. 

But my mind continued churning: maybe I’m not in love with working in higher education. Maybe I pursued this career because I love my alma mater, the University of Georgia, with a big part of my heart. The altruistic side of me wanted to give students there the best possible college experience, and that’s why I went into fundraising. Working at UGA always felt right, even on the hard days. I also worked for some of the best people I know. They want to see me succeed, and they want to see me happy. As the child of two Georgia grads, I’ve loved UGA since I was born. Maybe someday our little family could be ready to move back to Athens, but now, we’re just not. It’s not just me in the picture anymore: I have a husband whose career is going to thrive in a big city for the foreseeable future. So with what I've learned in Boston, at this massive, famous, renowned university - that I love my alma mater but my interests are veering away from higher ed in general - my career needed a change.

I also realized that living risk-averse was making for an unsatisfying life. I don't want to just go to work every day and make spreadsheets. I want to go to work excited for the ups and downs and challenges I'm going to face that day. And I want to work in a people-facing role.

When I was interviewing with my new company in Atlanta, I got great vibes every step of the way. They were upfront with me about every question I asked from the very first conversation. It always felt more like a chat with a new friend than an interview. I knew I wasn't just looking for a job in Atlanta. I was looking for the RIGHT job in Atlanta. When I went into the office for my final interviews and some job shadowing, one of the recruiters told me about her day-to-day. She said that sometimes, she has to play the role of therapist for her candidates. So as it turns out, I'll be using those strengths without having to go back to school. 

I’m really happy to say that Derek has supported me every step of the way as I tried to figure out what I wanted. Derek changed careers last year, and I got to be by his side during that process. Now he’s done the same for me. I know I’ve been frustrating at times. So I just want to say: THANK YOU, HONEY.

We’ve been talking about Atlanta for a long time. I just thought it would look like a fundraising job at Georgia Tech or Emory rather than working for a recruiting firm. When my plans changed, luckily, the job market in Atlanta accommodated my new career path.

Don’t get me wrong, changing careers still scares the crap out of me a little bit. It feels like a monumental life change. It’s going to be one of those moments I look back on that defines the trajectory of my life. But I look at it this way: I’m only 24 years old. Half my friends are still in school getting the training they need to pursue their dream careers. It’s a darn good thing I had this year while I’m still so young to get a better idea of what I want out of my life and career. I also think I’m going to be a freakin’ awesome recruiter.

So I’m off on a new adventure. And because I’m a massive dork, I keep thinking about this song from Anastasia:


Heart, don’t fail me now. Let’s do this.

How I Stumbled Into a Job I Love (And How You Can Too)

Today we've got a guest post from our friend Tyler Berry. He's a UX Designer and lives in Atlanta with his wife Aimee. Oh, and NBD, but he was the best man at our wedding. Enjoy!


By Tyler Berry

18-year-old me should never have been left on his own. The hardest decisions I wanted to make were whether to skip leg day or not and which dining hall to go to for breakfast. When big decisions like choosing a major popped up, I tried to simplify the choice as much as possible.

(me in college)

For example: I based my choice of major on a simple set of criteria:

1. Did I know anyone else in the major?
2. Did I have to take advanced maths?

18-year-old me landed a cushy spot in UGA's School of Public and International Affairs and celebrated not having to take Calculus. #AchievementUnlocked

 

I got better at making big decisions over the next 2 years, and the summer before Junior year, I faced a big one. To set myself up for a good career, I needed an internship with a government agency.

52 internship applications later...Nothing.

Unfortunately, I was too far into college to even THINK about switching majors. I tried not to worry about it and spent senior year focused on things like planning a wedding. I took the first job offer I got after graduating and hopped into a cubicle as a 'lead generation specialist'.

I tried to make it work. I promise. But sitting on the phone 8 hours a day seemed like a fate worse than death.

So 3 weeks into the working world, I decided it was time for a career change.

A friend of mine was working as a copywriter at the time and he suggested I give it a shot. Since I thought myself a pretty good writer, I said OK and we hatched a devious plan.

Devious Plan: I'd sign on with his company as a freelance copywriter, set my own hours, and never see a cubicle again. I joined his company and thought I was good to go. Unfortunately, writing keyword-stuffed articles was almost as bad as #cubelife, so after 2 months I implemented Devious Plan 2.0.

(here we go again)

Devious Plan 2.0: Join my wife at her agency as a full-time copywriter and go from there. Fortunately, getting into #Agencylife put me in contact with people who actually knew what they were doing.

The User Experience Director was one of those people. She spotted that I had a mind for patterns and systems, and suggested that I pursue a career in User Experience. For the next 6 months, I traded in my evenings and weekends for a crash course in UX Design. The stress of those 6 months took 5 years off my life, but it was the crucible that proved I was finally in the right career.

My journey from clueless college student to semi-competent professional could have been a lot easier.

If I had to change careers again, here's how I'd go about it.

1. Get advice early and often.

Shockingly, your friends and mentors have opinions on what jobs would be a good fit for you. Make sure you ask them and listen to what they say. It might save you a lot of trouble later on. And not shockingly, make sure you talk to your significant other. Make sure they're on board and work out whatever complications or transitions may be in store. 

2. See what's out there

Coming out of college, I had no idea how many different jobs there were in the world. Do yourself a favor and hop on Glassdoor.com or Indeed.com and see what's around you. You might find something awesome you never thought of before.

3. Make some lists.

If you didn't catch it earlier, my Devious Plans usually amounted to 'OMG GET ME OUT OF HERE PLEASE'. If I could do it over, I would have taken a minute (or an hour or a day. You do you.) to make the following lists before bailing:

  • An honest account of what you enjoy doing, what you're good at, and what you wish you were good at.
  • A short list of things you never ever ever want to do (ever.)

Hang onto these lists. They're your cheat-sheet when you're job hunting.

4. Teach Yo'self.

The best part of the modern world is internet access. If you're missing some hard skills for that #dreamjob, get on YouTube, Lynda.com, Skillshare, or your local library and treat yo'self to some tutorials. You can learn almost anything you want to know for less than $200 if you know where to look. Develop those hard skills and then apply.

The biggest thing I learned?

Career changes are hard. You're going to feel like you're in over your head sometimes. Keep going and it will get better.

How to Fail Successfully Without Even Trying

By Derek Reimherr

I think my life has been a continuous series of “successful fails” for the past 3 years.

Wait, hold up. You’re probably wondering what that means.

I recently read an article on Buffer’s blog called “I Failed Buffer’s Bootcamp...Successfully” from a guy named Jeffrey Kranz. You see, Buffer is an amazing social media company, one whose product I use every day and engage with every week during their #bufferchat on Twitter. But if you want to work with them, you’ve got to go through a 45 day bootcamp. At the end of it, there’s no guarantee you get the job. I think you can gather how this particular story ended based on the title of the the above linked article.

You see, failing successfully is what happens when you fall flat on your face, but find a $20 bill while you’re down there. It’s when your path diverges in the woods like that over- and misquoted Robert Frost poem, and you realize you’re on the wrong path. But all of the sudden, you find a tricked-out Jeep so you off-road out of those stupid woods onto a better adventure.

Don’t believe me? Just look at my end of undergrad and post-grad series of events:

I failed successfully when I told Maggie I wasn’t interested in her after our first date, but then basically professed my love 48 hours later. She still dated me.

I failed successfully changing my major in college. I was on track to be a clinical psychologist, but the research wore me out. I upgraded my Communications minor into a major, took an extra semester, and graduated with two degrees. I landed an internship that lasted just outside of my graduation semester and took a great paying sales/marketing job with a Fortune Global company in LA.

I failed successfully at a long distance relationship with Maggie. (This one is a stretch, we were both pretty bad at it.) Our communication was so terrible, we were forced to seriously examine how much we cared about each other. Now that we’re married, I can’t thank our 2-years-ago boneheaded selves enough.

I failed successfully in my first job at the aforementioned corporation. I worked a rotation that demanded 50+ hours every. single. week, granting me very little work-life balance. Thanks to California wage practices, I got overtime pay for those hours. This overtime helped me pay in cash for Maggie’s engagement and wedding ring and our honeymoon.
 

 Failing successfully landed me living in California with this view a mile from my house. Not too shabby.

Failing successfully landed me living in California with this view a mile from my house. Not too shabby.


I miserably failed successfully at corporate life. I had always dreamed of climbing that ladder because I liked the idea of being loyal to one company, but the culture was a really bad fit. I lasted for about a year and half and quit. I managed to get a social media job at an agency in Boston, after relocating with aforementioned corporation, with no prior agency work. I took a paycut, but I'm so much happier.

So yeah, my major life events have sort of been the result of major fails. Successful fails, thank you very much.

If you’re looking for some kind of lesson, it’s this: don’t be afraid to fail. Fail so hard that you have nowhere to go but into a different class altogether. You never know what you’ll find.
 

More Marriage Lessons:

All the Small Things
I'm an Extrovert Who Married an Introvert
10 Lessons Learned in 3 Months of Marriage

10 Things No One Tells You About Working From Home

{Today we're excited to change things up a bit and share a guest post from our good friend Collin Woodard. Like us, he's from Georgia but currently lives in Boston. He's an auto journalist, so he does this writing thing for a living. He's also a newlywed married to the wonderful Kate Willis. Enjoy!}

By Collin Woodard

When you work in an office, it’s easy to see the appeal of working from home.

There’s no commute, which means you can sleep in an extra hour or two. There’s no dress code, so you can wear whatever you want (or nothing at all). There’s no boss looking over your shoulder, so there’s no one to complain about you clipping your toenails or eating some strong-smelling ethnic food in the office.

And if that’s all there was to working from home, I’d be right there with you telling everybody that working from home is the best thing ever. But after spending the last several years as a full-time remote worker, it’s my responsibility to let you in on the secrets nobody is going to tell you about working from home.

 

1. It gets lonely

When you work in an office, you’re forced to spend time around coworkers. You might not like every single one of them, but there’s bound to be at least a couple you can tolerate. You’ll grab lunch together, hit happy hour together, and Gchat when you should really be working.

At home, there’s no one to do that with. It’s just you. By yourself. Every single day. Yeah, your office might use Slack, so you can chat with your coworkers, but you’ll probably go at least 10 hours without saying a word out loud to anyone.

If you live with a significant other or a roommate, you’ll see them when they get home, but if you like talking to more than one person per week, finding opportunities to socialize will be significantly harder.

 

2. No one thinks you have a real job

Real jobs require you to go into real offices to do real work around real people, right? Of course. So anyone who doesn’t have to spend every day in a real office obviously doesn’t actually have a real job. Except working from home still involves working. You just do that work at home.

Unfortunately, no one is going to actually believe that. Friends are going to want you to take a three hour break to meet them for lunch on the other side of the city. Your spouse is going to be confused when you don’t take care of all the housework. Your dog is going to look at you like a traitor for not playing with her every 10 minutes.

And that’s just if you work for a regular company. If you’re working freelance or starting your own company, it’ll be even worse.

 

3. Work never stops

These days, it’s hard enough to leave work at work when there’s an office you can physically leave. But when you work from home, you never truly leave the office. As a result, it’s easy to find yourself feeling like you’re never truly done for the day.

And since you’re never in the office, there’s also the constant threat of your boss thinking you’re lazy and not doing enough. So you constantly feel like you’re under pressure to respond to late-night emails, put in a few extra hours after dinner, and even keep going through the weekend.

 

4. There are no natural transitions

When you work from a “real” office, home and work are two distinct places, and there’s always a commute that helps you transition between the two. And for most people, by the time they get home, they’ve had enough time to relax and get out of work mode.

But when you work from home, you don’t get that. You can work from your bed.just as easily as you can work from your home office, and even when you’re done with work, there’s no location change to signal a shift from work mode to home mode.

As a result, you have to make sure you set up routines that allow you to change gears effectively. Because if you don’t, it’ll impact your productivity at work, and more importantly, it’ll impact your ability to engage with your spouse after work.

 

5. The novelty of not getting dressed wears off quickly

Not having a dress code is great. It really is. You can wear whatever you want, whether it’s pajamas, your birthday suit, or underwear and a t-shirt. Except it only takes a few weeks for the novelty of that to wear off.

The reality is that dressing like a college freshman every day wears on you. You feel gross, and your personal hygiene starts to slide. Before you know it, you’re trying to remember the last time you brushed your teeth, and suddenly you hate what you’ve become.

The truth is, routine is important. You need to get out of bed, put on different clothes, wear deodorant, and maintain basic levels of hygiene. Otherwise, you’ll end up looking like a neckbeard (or legbeard) before you know it. And nobody wants that.

 

6. You’ll become a hermit before you know it

When you have an actual commute to a physical office, you’re required to go outside at least twice a day. And whether you like them or not, you’ll be forced to interact with your coworkers while you’re there.

But when you work from home, there’s no one forcing you to go outside. And there’s no one to talk to. Yes, you’ll see your spouse at the end of the day, but they’re probably exhausted from all the commuting they just did and the coworker-socializing they were forced to participate in all day. Before you know it, a week will have passed, and you will have only left your house to go grocery shopping.

If that’s your dream lifestyle, then keep doing you. But very few people actually enjoy never leaving their house during the week. Yes, you can combat this tendency with a carefully planned social life, but just know it’s out there.

 

7. Establishing a routine takes time

When you start a new job, it definitely takes time to get into a routine. Thanks to your coworkers already having things figured out, though, it’s pretty easy to settle in. But when you’re working from home, you’re on your own.

Oh, and you have infinitely more distractions than you ever would have in an office. There are dishes that need to be done, television you could watch, laundry that needs to be folded, and naps that could be taken. Heck, you might even have a roommate or two that wants to chat at the most inconvenient times.

If you want to actually succeed at working from home, you need to ignore all of that. When you’re on the clock, the best thing you can do is treat it like you’re in a different world. If you can set up an office in a separate room, that’s best, but even if you can’t, you have to be serious about closing yourself off from distractions.

 

8. You miss out on coworker bonding

It would be great if raises and promotions were based entirely on performance and other easily measurable factors. Unfortunately, that’s not how business works. Your reputation around the office is going to strongly influence that sort of thing.

You could be lucky and work for a company that uses Slack, so it’s almost like you’re in the office. But you’re never going to hear the jokes your coworkers tell in person. You’re never going to be able to go to happy hour with them after work. And even when holiday parties roll around, you’re only going to be able to show up to those every once in a while.

 

9. It’s less flexible than you would think

A lot of people seem to think that working from home means sleeping in, taking long breaks, and being able to work whenever you want. But unless you’re working freelance or starting your own company, that’s probably not the case.

You definitely don’t have to worry about coworkers judging you for taking breaks, but you still have work to do. And your boss is probably going to expect you to keep in touch throughout the day. Especially if your office uses Slack, it’s going to be hard to work a mid-morning nap into your schedule.

Beyond that, the rest of the world still runs on a traditional business schedule. You’re going to want to follow a similar schedule just so you’re free to socialize with your friends when they’re free.

 

10. Eating is harder than you’d expect

One of the appeals of working from home is that you get to eat you own food. The kitchen is stocked with all the foods you like, you can eat any of it at any time, and you even have the ability to cook for yourself if you so choose. Plus, if you have a little salmon left over from the night before, there’s no one to complain that you’re making the whole office smell.

But without a defined routine or any clear breaks, you’ll find that lunch begins to slide. Maybe breakfast does too. Before you know it, it’s 3 PM, and you haven’t eaten a thing all day. Or maybe it’s 4 PM. And at that point, you might as well just wait until dinner.

Alternatively, you go the opposite direction and just snack all day. You don’t actually eat breakfast or lunch. You just graze on cheese, yogurt, popcorn, chips, pretzels, bagels, and candy. And while not eating all day certainly isn’t healthy, if you’re a snacker, it’s even worse. Except you won’t notice how much weight you’re gaining because you wear a robe all day.